Getting Your Ex Back
September 17, 2008 | Leave a Comment
“I hate telling you this but I think we should stop seeing each other” are the final words your ex says to you before they hang up their cell phone. You call them back four or five times, but the phone is busy. Do they actually mean this?
If they were being serious you can do one of two things – accept it or try to get your ex back. If you picked the latter, here’s a serious plan for helping you get what you want.
First of all, you need to realize that for whatever reason that made your ex break up with you, there is always a chance to get them back. It may take some time, and depending on how badly you want your ex back, ask yourself if you’re willing to be persistent in doing so. If your ex means a lot to you, then perhaps they don’t see something in you right now because you aren’t showing them the qualities that made them fall for you in the first place. If you do believe in yourself and take action, then you can get back with your ex. It’s that simple.
Step 1 – Don’t Call Back
As hard and contradictory as this is, don’t call your ex and tell them how much you miss them or how sorry you are, etc. Give them some space! One of the main reasons why your ex broke up with you was probably that you were too clingy. You called your ex when they were out with their friends. You wanted attention from your ex every time they were around you. You wanted to give them as much attention to them when you were around them. Basically, you constantly smothered them with affection and in return, this turned them off and even to a point became annoying. It’s normal to show affection to someone else, but remember you also have to be able to be a chase and make them chase after you! So as of right now, do the opposite of what you would normally do. Instead of AOL instant messaging them, sending text messages to them, or calling them, just cut all these things loose. Don’t contact them for a week to a month. During this process, they’ll start wondering why you haven’t called them, and it will simply because you are busy doing things in your life that are important to you.
Step 2 – Do Activities
If your ex contacts you at any time to talk to you, act casual. Act like their friend and please don’t act like their girlfriend or boyfriend again. They just broke up with you. Show them that you understand that they made that decision and be mature about it by being nice to them and acting like they’re another friend. Yes I know this is contradictory but they’ll start wondering why you aren’t head over heels for them at the moment. This will get them thinking, and then politely tell them that you have to go because you are busy and you should be. Just because your ex broke up with you doesn’t mean you can’t do activities and have fun. It might not be the same without your ex but it’ll keep your mind off of them. Go watch a movie with some friends, join a club that your passionate about, play some sports, go rock climbing, take up a hobby, go to a party, go clubbing and have some fun because you deserve it!
Step 3 – The Talk
If you’ve gotten to a point where you are capable of doing things without your ex, then you have not only your dramatically improved inner self being, but most likely a new and different person that your ex now sees – someone that doesn’t cling on to them every second and someone that is independently capable of managing their lives by themselves. Set up a date with your ex. Whether your ex calls you to hang out with you first or you want to call them to hang out. If you’re really at a stage where you can talk to your ex just as friends then role play as if you guys “were on a date” – talk about random things, laugh, share memories, flirt, be playful, etc. It’s inevitable that both of you guy’s still have left over feelings for each other if you guys are being playful with to one another. Do this until you guys are able to resolve your issues, and if everything goes according to plan, there’s a good chance that you and your ex will get back together.
Author Bio: Tristan Lee is passionate about helping other people get their ex’s back. If you want a complete, detailed plan on how to do this, please visit http://www.expotions.com.
How To Get Back Your Ex (From A Dumper’s Perspective)
September 16, 2008 | Leave a Comment
A lot of people just “don’t get it” when it comes down to getting back an ex. When I broke it off with my girlfriend, because I couldn’t stand her, within a one or two months, I was head over heels for her again. Using ways that I didn’t even know would work, she eventually got me back even though I told myself we were done for good.
Getting an ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back isn’t as hard as it seems! The first thing you have to do is get a hold of yourself. Breaking up with someone isn’t the end of the world and the sooner you realize this, the sooner you will be more attractive. For the first two weeks, my ex girlfriend cried, complained, and told me that she wouldn’t be clingy. This made me want to run away even more. Don’t get me wrong, she was a cool down to earth, person but sometimes, she was just way too clingy.
I believe that is the number one rule when trying to get your ex back. Don’t smother your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend, telling them how much you miss her or how much you love them. That is not the reason why ex’s break up! You have to, as I said before, get a hold of yourself! Don’t think about your ex and do some activities that will take your mind off of your ex like interacting with other people, playing sports, participating in a club or hobby, or going to the movies with your friends. I know this will seem like an impossible task at first, especially if you’re a person that hung out with your ex 24/7. But continue with this, and as days go by, it will get a lot easier. Your ex will wonder why you haven’t “smothered” them lately and will start thinking about you and what you’ve been up to.
Once a good time has passed by where you are not obsessively thinking about what your ex is doing, which may take a couple weeks to a month, then you can start contacting your ex. When you contact them via AOL instant messenger, text messaging, or cell phone, talk to them as if they were “just your friend.” Don’t start talking about how much you thought about them during the last few weeks. Just talk to them casually and if they happen to bring back moments first, then you can talk about those moments that brought you two together in the first place. Never scorn your ex for dumping you or breaking up with you as this may lead to an argument and a lost opportunity to get your ex back.
If you talked to them casually, shared a couple of laughs, used some flirting techniques on them, and basically have a fun, playful conversation, then your ex will start to grow feelings for you again. It would be even powerful if midway through your guys’ conversation, you said that you need to go because you were busy and needed to take care of something, leaving them curiously thinking what could be more important than talking to your ex that you “love so much?” But this depends on if you have the strength to leave without being desperate, but still giving hints that you still love and care for them. If all goes well, you should have no problem getting your ex back. Good luck.
Author Bio: Tristan Lee is passionate about helping other people get their ex’s back. If you want a more detailed plan on how to get your ex back without seeming too desperate, please visit http://www.expotions.com.
How to Get Your Ex Back
September 14, 2008 | Leave a Comment
How to Get Your Ex Back
Getting your ex back is not as hard as you might imagine if you get the right advice. There are underlying reasons and motives as to why exes take their guys or gals back. These reasons and motives lay hidden from sight of most people. Once you know and understand and are given just a little guidance on what to do and when to do it, you will be able to get your ex back.
You might have tried on your own to win back your ex and probably you have made these mistakes:
- Try to convince her/him that you are the love of her/his life
- Apologize profusely for everything
- Promise to change for good this time
- Try to get her/him to see that it wasn’t really your fault
- Beg her/him to take you back
And of course, every word we utter, regardless of our intention, the more and more defensive, angry and distant your ex become.
This is not your fault! You weren’t taught this in school. You probably weren’t taught this by your parents.
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