Cheating Signs - How Can You Tell?

November 30, 2008 | Leave a Comment

Few things are as abominable as a deceitful lover. The very thought that one’s sweetheart may not be perfectly faithful is enough to keep us up at night. Does she have secret rendezvous with another man? Is he cheating on you? Such questions plague us no end. Numerous ladies are saddled with unfaithful spouses or boyfriends. Often women think it in their minds but cannot come to a definite conclusion. At times women end up charging their lovers wrongly. This can be disconcerting but there are signs which will let you know for sure if your man is indeed straying and for this you need not exert yourself too much.

Men display very many signs which show if they are straying. A major indicator of a disloyal lover is in the emotional displays made by such a man. But it is not easy to understand or unravel emotional signals since these are very elusive and faint, especially in men. And one needs to have confirmation before they can absolutely believe these. In any case, dealing with feelings has never been an easy task. Feelings are difficult to define and subject to much change. Over-charged emotions may lead us to false conclusions and we end up acting unusually. Openly expressed feelings may also give away your secret. All this notwithstanding, emotional responses are still the best way of judging for yourself the infidelity of your lover.

Here are some ways to unravel the mysteries about what emotions inspires which action in your beloved. Undoubtedly, an unfaithful lover experiences a varied spectrum of many emotions, out of which a guilty conscience most certainly forms a major part, despite whatever enjoyment he may feel from this new ‘attachment’. Even though starting an affair may make the person in question feel a certain enjoyment their conscience tells them their behaviour is not right. These powerful emotions when combined will be visible in his unusual conduct and you will certainly notice him behaving in a way that is odd and uncharacteristic.

Let me list for you certain traits that you will surely see in your lover if they are actually cheating:

1. His phone bill has a new number listed on it and the data shows that the number is frequently called every day. When you call this number a woman’s voice is heard on the other end.

2. Many times in a day when you pick up calls on his mobile or land line someone hangs up at the other end.

3. He isn’t as interested in sex as he used to be.

4. He makes alterations in the way he dresses and won’t explain why.

5. When you take his clothes for a laundry wash you come across little slips of paper bearing unknown numbers.

6. He doesn’t hang out with you as much as he used to and prefers to spend more time with his guy friends or even ‘working late’.

7. He acts erratic and charges you with disloyalty, all the time acting jealously.

8. You can smell a woman’s perfume on him on the several evenings that he returns home late. It is the same perfume each time.

9. Every time he picks up the phone goes out of the room and speaks very softly into the phone. When you ask him who it was he says it was a call related to work.

10. He makes sudden phone calls to you and tries to find out if you have made plans to venture out later with your family or your friends.

Despite all of the above mentioned you must ask your lover if he is actually being unfaithful to you or having an affair with another. When confronted with this question his reaction will make the answer all too clear to you. A cowardly person will not scruple to lie though. You must observe his facial expressions very closely therefore which will certainly give him away.

While ending a relationship can be sad it is necessary for you to separate from a partner who is not faithful. It is much better if you come to know the hard facts at the earliest possible time. A bond which the other person does not honour is a bogus one and will only make you miserable. Only by breaking away from it can you begin life afresh. At no point are you to blame yourself since a cheating nature can never be satisfied with any one woman and this vicious cycle will probably continue for the man in question.

Author Bio: Keith Ward is the Founder and Director of the Circle of Professional Clairvoyants, which offers Psychic Readings with fully qualified Senior UK Clairvoyants and Psychic.

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Breakup Quiz : 20 Questions to Ask Yourself

November 28, 2008 | Leave a Comment

Being alone after a break up is a challenge, especially at holiday time. Divorce or separation after a long relationship is the number two top life stressor following right behind being widowed. A severe loss can plunge you into depression and health problems. So do not let yourself go for several months without taking steps to recover. A UCLA study showed that being rejected activates one of the same areas of the brain as physical pain! The more ignored the people felt, the more activity they had in the anterior cingulate, which also registers physical distress. In other words, your pain is physiological. But research has also shown how you can recover from loss more quickly. Here are five tips that have helped many people turn this painful time into a whole new rebirth for themselves!

Tip 1. Spend Time with Close Friends

The same UCLA researchers found that spending time and sharing with close friends and offset the pain by causing the brain to release natural opioids, which are like the painkillers found in opium.

Tip 2. Use Anger As Fuel To Better Yourself

If you are feeling angry, channel it into kick boxing, lifting weights or cardio. Exercise lifts your mood and youths your body. You will de-stress, find more peace and sleep better! Give yourself a makeover. Initially thinking about how sorry your ex will be when he or she sees how fantastic you have become can be fuel for your rebirth. Make yourself more attractive and better inside and out.

Tip 3. Have A ‘New You’ Party

Invite your friends to come over for a ‘New You’ party where they help give you a makeover. Let them go through your clothes and accessories, getting rid of unflattering stuff and putting together some hot looks for the new you. Ask them for referrals to great hair salons or clothing shops. Find a look that makes you feel great. You can also have a big reveal party for yourself.

Tip 4. Get Out There and Date Off- & Online

Start as soon as possible, even if you don’t feel like it. The sooner you do, the sooner you’ll move on. At this moment your chances of meeting the love of your life could be better than ever! The average marriage now lasts under seven years and this means new singles are coming on the scene all the time. Around sixteen million people are now using online dating. You don’t need to worry about getting into a rebound relationship: new research shows that people marrying on the rebound are no more likely to fail than those who wait. Not to worry if you are older: The American Association of Retired Persons found in a recent survey that 70 percent of single baby boomers are actively dating.

Tip 5. Meditation and Relaxation

Johns Hopkins researchers recommend practicing relaxation techniques to get rid of heartache. These include meditation, deep breathing or journaling out your feelings. Practice any or all of these techniques and you will bounce back from loss more rapidly.

You can learn much more about the latest research on and techniques for recovering from heartache in my new book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love .

Author Bio: Psychologist, Dr. Diana Kirschner, appeared on Oprah and is a frequent guest on the Today Show. For 25+ years she has helped thousands of single women find love. Her acclaimed new book is Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love. For her etips, blog, dating articles, daily affirmations & discussion forum visit http://www.lovein90days.com

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How to Prevent a Break Up

November 27, 2008 | Leave a Comment

Being stuck in a loveless relationship is just as bad as dealing with a sudden breakup. Are both of you stubborn and unable to give or compromise? These are some tips to save a relationship that you fear is headed for a break-up.

#1 Do not indulge in assigning blame.

It’s easy to blame our partner when a relationship gets into trouble. He no longer listens to what I have to say. She is an ice maiden. Why doesn’t he just do something that would make me happy? If she would stop bugging me all the time, I would be more likely to do nice things for her. Blaming your partner puts them on the defense, and will not make things better for your relationship. Stop focusing on what your partner lacks, and put the focus on who they are.

#2 Avoid being needy and clingy.

If you always want your partner to do everything with you, it’s not healthy. Neediness is one of the top reasons that couples break up. It is important for you to understand that it is normal for partners to spend some needed time away from each other, and they should not have to participate in trivial things with you that they do not enjoy. When you find that you are forever craving to be with your partner, it is time for you to start developing some other areas of interest, a pastime, to be able to spend time away from your partner.

#3 Are you talking and listening to each other?

A healthy relationship is one in which partners are able to communicate. You need to give your partner the same kindness and respect that you give to friends and colleagues. Why would you talk to your loved one that way if you wouldn’t speak to your friends or colleagues like that?

#4 Stop indulging false beliefs.

Do you obsess about where your partner is, what he is thinking about, and what company he is with? If your partner isn’t attending to your every desire, do you suspect that they no longer care about you? If you stop believing those false thoughts, you’ll stop having a negative view of reality.

#5 Do you hear, really hear what they are saying?

Do you heed your partner’s preferences? Do you give as much importance to their part of the story, for fairness? There are occasions when we turn a blind eye to reason in our determination to be the one who is right. If you happen to get involved in another conflict, try to listen genuinely to what the other person has to say, and talk at a normal volume. It is possible that you may have overlooked some vital point and, of course, you could be wrong too.

It may be that some relationships require a lot more than the above tips in order to experience any notable difference. If this sounds like your relationship, it is apparent that your relationship has weathered a long spell of suffering and both partners need to spend time away from each other. Take this time to get a better picture and think about what you really want.

Author Bio: Katie W. is the host and writer of True Love Returns where she maintains her breakthrough How to Get Your Love Back e-course. You can find out more about how to save your relationship by visiting True Love Returns For a limited time only claim your copy of “Win Back Your Lost Love” e-book absolutely free at True Love Returns

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