How to Have a Happy Marriage – 5 Easy Tips
May 13, 2009 | Leave a Comment
Marriage is that social institution or sacred space where a man and a woman are formally united for the purpose of living together and sharing their life together, but in current times when an increasing number of marriages is falling apart and heading towards splitsville, the primary concern in the minds of most married individuals is how to have a happy marriage. Well, let me give you a few pointers on having a good relationship which may be of use to quite a good number of warring couples.
The power of a simple touch
Just as mothers touch their babies often and pat them on the back to assure and reassure them, similarly going tactile with your partner and touching them gently and affectionately at times, like squeezing their hands or patting on the bum or giving an affectionate tap on the head can directly hit at the emotional think tank of your spouse and communicate that feeling of intimacy and affection. A gentle touch when your partner is feeling upset or down in the dumps can calm him/her down in a few seconds.
How to say thank you
When your partner does a good deed for you or something that is helpful but very trivial, don’t ever forget to say thank you from the bottom of your heart. The main reason why most marriages fall apart is because one partner or both partners start to take each other for granted. Basically what I mean is to let your partner know that he/she is indispensable in your life and that you cannot do without him/her.
How to have a happy marriage through a fulfilling sex life
Another reason why most marriages fall apart is because the couples stop having sex and the physical intimacy breaks down and hits ground zero. In fact when a couple in the mid thirties stops having sex, it sure is a sign of trouble brewing up. Try to keep yourself attractive, fit and sexy, pay attention to personal grooming and hygiene and you must remember to court each other.
Vacations and recreations
The best way to eliminate boredom in a placid marriage and to revive that spark is to enjoy recreations or take vacations which both partners will enjoy to the hilt. Try out adventure sports or scuba diving together. Don’t force your spouse to follow something that he/she won’t like. For e.g. all wives aren’t keen on fishing expeditions or golfing tours. Sometimes you should give priority to your spouse’s interests as well.
Successful sharing of domestic chores
When the wife has to cook, clean, tend to the children, shop for groceries, attend to ailing husband or kids, run out to pay bills, wash dishes and clothes apart from pursuing her job, she becomes easily stressed out and breaks out into temper tantrums. As a kind and considerate husband, it is your duty to help her.
Hopefully if you follow some of these “how to have a happy marriage” tips and guidelines, your married life will be a success story as well.
Author Bio: Meredith Glee have written several marriage articles on how to have a happy marriage and other related marriage problems.
5 Keys to a Successful Marriage For a Fulfilling Emotional Journey
May 11, 2009 | Leave a Comment
Everybody who intends to enter into that lifelong commitment called marriage must be aware of the keys to a successful marriage, regardless of whether they are male or female, but it has been usually observed that in most cases a relationship starts to die on the vine because of the nonchalance and indifference of the male partner. In this article I shall share a few tips with you on how to have a successful marriage and how to keep the romance from fizzling out and love from burning out.
Importance of saying good byes and hello and I love you
Did you know that a simple hello after returning home from work or a good bye kiss on the lips or cheeks before going out to work can work miracles for your marriage? Instead of uttering mundane things like you may be late in the evening or sitting down to watch television right after returning home, which will rightly offend your partner, why don’t you give your spouse your most special smile and make eye contact with him/her while giving him/her a kiss or a hug?
This is a very simple act, but it will go a long way in cementing the bond between you two and make your partner feel warm, loved and wanted and special. The basic motive behind these demonstrations of love is nothing but to let your spouse know how much he/she means to you.
Sharing a few trivial things might make your marriage
Another key to a successful marriage is the sharing of very trivial and light issues. Remember those golden old days of youth when you used to send countless silly text messages or emails to your spouse or chatted with your spouse for hours over the phone? And then one day, the wedding took place and there were responsibilities and work commitments and soon kids, jobs and other kinds of responsibilities followed and killed all the romance.
Somewhere down the line you grew up and forgot to share. Well, one of the keys to a successful marriage is not letting this happen and keeping the lines of communication open at all times. Be just like friends; share all the trivialities at work or at the grocery store or at the kitty party or office party. Have a good laugh over it. A half an hour solid time spent with your spouse every day or every night can keep you two closes for the rest of your life.
Laughter is still the best medicine
Oh yes. This one is still regarded as one of the foremost and primary keys to a successful marriage. A good sense of humor can help to lighten even the darkest of moods and making fun of your silly mistakes and silly issues or your childish quarrels can help to beat the stress of marriage and everyday life. Both of you should know how to smile and giggle or guffaw or laugh away those tensions and tears.
The two other keys to a successful relationship are the healing power of touch that can convey feelings like intimacy and affection like nothing else and saying a heart felt thank you that will increase your togetherness quotient.
Author Bio: Meredith Glee have written several marriage articles on the important keys to a successful marriage and other related marriage advice.
The Happy Marriage Formula Part II
May 10, 2009 | Leave a Comment
This is a continuation of what makes a happy marriage. In part 1 we covered building fond memories and reminiscing about them together. Also covered in part one was making a point to smile and laugh a lot together. The world is a serious place, but that doesn’t mean we can’t be loose and have fun. So is that it? Of course not, there are many factors that lead to your dream marriage and we will cover a couple more of them in this chapter. The following, along with part 1, is what we’ve found makes couples happy together. Remember, these are not all inclusive points and these things are not what will make every marriage a happy one. These are simply observations we have made concerning the traits of happy couples, pieces of a puzzle.
Question, what impresses most women and makes them gaga and gets guys ‘lucky’ that particular day? What impresses men and makes them feel good and loved even though they are too stubborn to admit that they like it? Answer, when we remember dates that is special to one another and we go out of our way in order to make that date special for the other person. We all know that women love this; you see it everyday on one talk show or another or by listening to women talk about who forgot what and how sweet someone remembered something, but men like it as well. For instance, I like that my spouse thinks of our relationship so highly that she wants to celebrate every miles stone that the relationship gods have to offer. My wife is impressed that I can remember the exact date, place, time and what we had to drink on our first official date thirteen+ special years ago. She also loves the fact that I treat that date as an anniversary every year and make her feel extra special in my life. The point is that we all have times that we cherish together and we should feel good about the special dates in our lives and celebrate those days with fond memories and laughs. When we forget about the special dates and/or no longer celebrate those days we risk the perception that we no longer care or cherish the special times that our relationship has represented over the passage of time.
There are many times where the day ends and couples adjourn to their separate places in the home to do whatever it is that they feel like doing. This is fine and we all need our alone time here and there. The problem is that once we make this a routine we forget about the needs of the other person and it no longer becomes a we household but a ‘what do I want/need’ household. Other times couples get caught up going out too much or hanging out with friends all of the time. While these acts alone and/or in moderation are healthy getting into a routine of not emphasizing the importance of your spouse is not healthy. The key point here is to make each other most important. This can be accomplished quite simply by asking yourself “what would make my husband/wife happy right now”. This is putting your spouse ahead of your favorite television show or the computer or your friend at the Pub. This is contingent on paying attention to your spouses feelings and recognizing the signs that they need you right now, whether it be someone to talk to in order to blow off steam or just to sit next to and hold hands while watching a movie even though it is your night to go out with friends. No matter how put off you may feel look at your spouse and recognize their need for you and make them the most important person in your life. Life and especially marriage is not always about you…the quicker you realize this the happier your life and your marriage will be.
There you have it. Two more brief examples of what I’ve seen looking at happily married couples. Just a side note here, the couples that I profile are young and old alike. These traits on not age specific but they are specific in generating a loving and happy relationship from onset to sunset. Until next time, grab some popcorn and start the DVR.
Daniel is a writer for Marriage Expert. He has four children and is married to the same beautiful woman he met in 1995. Please visit us at Marriage Expert and share your experiences with us. Visit Marriage Expert! Also read the outstanding book featured on Oprah. 1000 Questions For Couples.