Is Physical Appearance Important In Marriage?

November 30, 2009 | Leave a Comment

What attributes decides the best bride and the groom? Is it the looks, wealth, social status, character, education or high paying job? If we look at some of the matrimonial columns in the paper or the internet, you will find a list of what the bride looks for in a groom and vice versa. Some are thought provoking and others are like small comical bits which gives you a good laugh. What really can one expect when looking for a possible match?

We can find a lot of couple who are in no way competent as far as looks as concerned. They might look like brother and sister or even father and daughter. But the kind of bondage and understanding they share will be amazing. Physical looks are considered very seriously these days as the youngsters work in silicon jobs and thrive in corporate culture. They look for highly fashionable brides with good spoken English and party cultured.

There is nothing wrong in desiring such brides or grooms as long as they realize that just physical appearance alone doesn’t ensure a happy marriage. For a family to thrive a good and decent job is a must. Nowadays both the bride and the groom work in order to make both ends meet. The social demand and personal comfort levels have risen so much that it is difficult to run a family with one income. For a good job and equally great education becomes imperative.

Depending on individual appearance and the job status can be compromise. If they think the job security is their prime concern they might compromise on the looks of their spouse. Practically all aspects cannot and need not be decked in one single person. So find out what is most important in your life and then decide accordingly. Of course if one is lucky enough to get all in one bride no one can be happier than the groom. You should think practically rather than emotionally. Look around your self and try to find out the problem people are facing due to partner selection. This should be a starter for you. You can try to find out the pros and cons of marrying to same profession partner and different profession partner. It may turnout one of curial decision. Same time you should also try imaging partner with matching attributes and one with totally different attribute. This should immediately brings your attention to different sets of benefits and problems.

If one tries, physical looks can always be changed to some extent. The bride can go for a total make over, and change her less than ordinary looks into a very fashionable page3 look. One can join yoga and gym to shade those extra pounds and become attractive. It is all matter of how one presents herself or himself in public. Mannerism and attitudes can be changed according to ones preferences. It all depends upon the society you move with and the friends you have. One may even try to change the body language and that should bring in drastic difference in once personality. Therefore not much importance should be given to physical looks in a marriage.

Author Bio: Deepa Mehta writes on behalf of matrimonyhouse.com, India’s fastest growing matrimonial website. matrimonyhouse.com enables users to create and search Indian matrimony profile on the website. Registering, Searching, and Contacting prospective groom and bride are absolutely free.

Happy Marriage - Groom’s Guide

November 29, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Marriage in India is always been treated as holy union of souls. In Indian marriage the man and woman who get into matrimony become one and the same, just like the arthanareeshwara. The stories of Lord Shiva depict that he gave that half of his body to his wife Parvathy. This might sound like a story but then our ancestors instilled human value and morals through heavenly stories. It doesn’t mean literally sharing your body with your spouse which isn’t possible. But the deeper meaning depicts how a man should accept a woman as an equal in his life.

This story directs how a groom should accept, share and be ready to be part of the bride whom he weds and chooses to live for the rest of his life. Many think that it is the bride’s thing to do all the shifting and sacrificing after marriage. But for a household to run smoothly a man must know how to balance his work and his relationships back home.

Man should realize that the bride’s only hope and counsel after marriage is none other than he himself. There might be others at home like parents and sisters still she stepped into your household holding your hands and you brought her in to take care of her every need and not to just leave her alone in a totally new world. She needs your support and encouragement more than anything else.

After the marriage groom must talk to the bride and make her comfortable in her new home. He must inform her about who is what and how she can find help and comfort from him at any time. He must encourage her to share things with him and open up and be transparent. He should then try to make the family sit together for a chat or bring about more get together to make them comfortable with the new bride and to make the bride get used to her in laws. Festivals and some ones birth days in family are the great opportunities to bring every one inch closer.

On the other hand he must be careful not to get carried away with his new bride and try to behave his normal self as before. The mother is more emotionally affected in the marriage and hence he should give extra care to her and make her feel that his love for her will never fade. This conviction will help his mom to change her mind set about the bride.

The groom should understand that his in-laws are also as important as his own parents. He should respect them and treat them as his own parents. He should realize how much they will miss their daughter and how insecure they might be feeling about her new home. He should visit them or keep in touch with them to assure them that’s he is always there for his wife. Thus getting into a matrimony means both the groom and the bride should work together to make their marriage work. After all we have just one life to live.

Author Bio: Rajesh Jain writes on behalf of matrimonyhouse.com, India’s fastest growing matrimonial website. matrimonyhouse.com enables users to create and search Indian matrimony profile on the website. Registering, Searching, and Contacting prospective groom and bride are absolutely free.

Love or Arranged Marriage?

November 28, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Every one believes that marriages are made in heaven. It might be true but then in reality the couples who marry are either in love with one another or the marriage is finalized or arranged by their family members. Debate whether love marriage or arranged marriage is best is never ending as both sides have their experience and testimony to support the system which suits them.

Nothing is wrong in a love marriage until and unless it is accepted by the couple’s family members. Marriage is not just two people coming together but two families uniting to bring two souls together in holy matrimony. Thus the couple in love will have to face the challenges of the community and pacify their family members to accept the partner chosen by them.

In arranged marriages the family first scrutinizes the possible brides, their family and background and leaves the final decision with the groom or vice versa. The whole family support the matrimony during high and low times. They see to it that the couple is happy with one another at all times. Minor misunderstandings are cleared by advice from seniors who act as relationship managers and marriage councilors. With such an expert team around the couple thrive joyously.

Love marriages are mostly done without the family consents. Very few people attend such marriage. Most of the time bides or grooms family is opposing the marriage for some reasons and may not attend the marriage. In an arranged marriage it is grand ceremony wherein the couple takes the vow before the fire god to stay united. Amidst all the relatives and friends they make a commitment to stay together lifelong. A whole lot of sacrifices, adjustments and changes are what goes into a wedding. Overall it is a group commitment among both the families of the couple to stand united and make the marriage work.

Be it arranged or love the primary goal of a marriage is bringing together a man and a women. They commit themselves to be there for one another life long supporting each other in their overall development. They decide to start a family and bring up excellent kids into the society. Falling in love is a natural instinct no one can avoid. But then many people control themselves and allow their seniors to decide their marriage. They wait until the family finds a match for them. This works for some and does not for others. Arranged marriage has its own social dynamics.

Today parents are accepting reality and becoming broad minded enough to accept the choice of their kids in marriage. Times have changed and so is the attitude of people. It is a very positive change to see matrimonial sites with ads saying that caste or creed no bar. The limiting communal boundaries are being broken and it is proof that people want to find the right match other than the right community or caste. Instead of rating between love and arranged marriages it is good to start appreciating the lovely divine institution of marriage.

Author Bio: Rajesh Jain writes on behalf of matrimonyhouse.com, India’s fastest growing matrimonial website. matrimonyhouse.com enables users to create and search Indian matrimony profile on the website. Registering, Searching, and Contacting prospective groom and bride are absolutely free.

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