How To Get Back An Ex and Make It Stick

March 13, 2010 | Leave a Comment

When wondering how to get back an ex, we often forget that we are working from a position of strength.  If you are trying to convince a new potential partner to notice you, you may have to try various different tricks to gain their attention.  You don’t know them so you don’t know which buttons to press.

But when dealing with your ex, you know exactly what they like and don’t like. You know which clothes they prefer you to wear, what scent or cologne, where they hang out and what they like doing in their spare time. You know her favorite flowers or what team he supports. You know this person intimately and you can use this knowledge to your advantage.  OK, you also have the disadvantage of the fact that you have already broken up once but that is not the end of the world. We all make mistakes and thankfully most can be rectified.

So don’t despair, you have a lot of things going for you.  Millions of couples the world over break up and get back together again and so can you.  You just need to know how to approach your ex-partner and convince them that you deserve another chance.   Honest communication is the best policy.  Don’t be tempted to play games, you are not a child and this is not the playground.  Some people will tell you that you should try and make your ex jealous.  But trying to hurt anyone doesn’t show any respect for that person’s feelings never mind those of the person you are using.

Unfortunately how to have a successful relationship is not a subject taught in school.  Some of us are lucky to have parents who are still together and have shown us by their example, what a happy partnership is.  But all too often this is not enough.  Go into any bookshop and you will see shelves of books on relationships.  How to make them better, how to make them work, how to meet the right man or woman, how to keep them once you meet them etc.  You think of any question you may have had about your relationship and there is a probably a book written to answer it.

But reading loads of books won’t turn you into a relationship expert overnight. You need to read the right material. You need to know that other people have found these books useful and been successful in attracting their ex back into their lives.

You want a course that doesn’t promise the earth but will help you to resolve your differences with your ex and enable you to become a happy couple once again.  Sometimes these books will claim to make you totally irresistible to the other sex.  But this isn’t what you want.  There is only one person you are interested in getting back.  So, it really is up to you.  You can stay home and be miserable wondering how to get back an ex or you can be constructive and take positive steps and hopefully soon you will be back in the arms of your lover once more.

How To Win Back Lost Love and Then Keep It

March 10, 2010 | Leave a Comment

Are you missing your partner?  How to win back lost love is a question we all ask at some point in our lives. The good news is that if you use a good source of material like the “Magic of Making Up“, it is a question you will be able to answer.

People fall out of love for all sorts of reasons but the funny thing is that it is rarely the big items, like an affair, which causes partners to fall out.  It is more likely to happen because they got bored or felt taken for granted, neglected or ignored.  Sometimes someone else comes along who has the time to flatter them and before you know it an affair has taken place.

We can all be guilty of leaving our partners out of our lives. We expect them to put up with whatever we dish out; as they love us right?  Well they may love us but if we continually put the world and it’s mother before them they will get fed up of us being selfish and may decide to look elsewhere.

You have to be sensitive to your partners needs.  He or she is entitled to expect to come way up high on your priority list as they are supposed to be the special someone in your life.   If your ex has left you to be with someone else you need to understand why. what did this person offer that you didn’t? It could be something as simple as paying her some compliments or attention. 

Women crave certain behavior and if their current partners don’t provide it on a consistent basis, they will look elsewhere. You need to know these secrets to a successful relationship and reading books such as the magic of making up will help you to become a better partner and lover.  Sex is a small word but it creates huge problems.  Women often withdraw from making love when they are unhappy with another aspect of their relationship.  Men see this withdrawal as an insult and often believe their mate just doesn’t fancy them anymore.  This can lead them into the arms of another woman.

There are many reasons why communication between a man and a woman gets tangled up and doesn’t work as well as it should.  Our brains are wired differently and we make assumptions based on past feelings and situations rather than just on the situation we are currently faced with. 

We need help when our relationships go wrong but often people are not willing to discuss their relationship with a third party.  They fear they may get blamed for things going wrong but that is not the role of the counsellor.  Their job is to act as a mediator between the both of you.

If you are determined to win back lost love, first start with reading the magic of making up and see how soon you can convince your ex partner back into your bed and your life.

How To Make Him Or Her Fall In Love Again

February 3, 2010 | Leave a Comment

Things getting a little boring in your relationship? Feeling like every day is the same as the day before? How would you like to bring back the excitement and fun you felt when you first fell in love? Think it’s impossible? It’s not.

See, if you know why a person fell in love with you in the first place, you know how to make that person fall in love with you all over again, as many times as you want – even forever! The trick is figuring out why your mate fell in love with you from the start.

How do you do that? You ask. Bear in mind asking, “Why do you love me?” isn’t the best question to ask in this instance. If you don’t believe me, ask your mom why she loves your dad. She’ll likely say (like most people) “I don’t know exactly why I love him, I just do.”

But the truth is that people fall in love with someone because of how that someone makes them feel about themselves. So if you want to find out exactly what it was that started it all, way back when, ask your partner what it was you made them feel, about themselves, when they first began to fall in love with you.

Maybe you made him feel like he was the most sexy man on the planet, or you made her feel like she was intelligent and interesting. In any case, whatever you made them feel about themselves, it’s a sure indication feeling that way makes them very happy.

Knowing what makes your partner very happy, what makes him/her feel really good about themselves makes helping them to fall in love with you again a pretty simple operation.

How? Because once you know how you made your significant other feel about him/herself when your relationship first began, you’ll have the key to unlocking those feelings of falling in love again over and over in your lives, as many times as you want.

So go ahead and try it today. Ask your partner, “How did I make you feel, about yourself, when we were dating or when we first met?” Then, once you have the answer, do whatever you need to do to recreate that feeling.