Are Men or Women More Prone to Unfaithfulness?

May 27, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Unfaithfulness in a relationship has been a hot topic discussed in many settings, probably since the beginning of time. The basketball court, the beauty salon, and the barber shop, are some of the likely places in which people have been compelled to put their two cents in. We’ve all huddled up in a group or at least witnessed people gather to debate over the roles men and women play in their unfaithfulness. Some debates are heated, and some are even humorous, while others allow women and men to learn more about each other in the process of exchanging ideas, feelings, and attitudes about the impact of cheating and being cheated on. Yet the age-old question still remains: Who cheats more, women or men?

Some men seem to follow a common route when developing an answer to this question. Their initial thoughts are somewhat obscured by their resistance to admit their own unfaithfulness in their relationships. But when probed further into discussion, they’re more willing to confess it as long as they’re given the chance to explain why. When asked if women or men cheat the most, transportation manager Lee Greene replied: “I believe men cheat the most because we can. For me, it was easy. Being away from home a lot made it easy and my cockiness made it easy. But I got a conscience about hurting the woman I was with. I felt like a snake, so I stopped.”

“Women do cheat, but men cheat the most. Women have to think about certain risks if the man decides to walk away, like pregnancy, emotional attachment, and STDs,” said salon owner Alta Haralson. “Men don’t seem to consider all the same risks as much as women do, which would make women less inclined to cheat.” She went on to say that the reason a man goes outside of his relationship to have an affair is due to ego and selfishness. “If he feels he’s not sexually fulfilled by his partner, he goes elsewhere. Sometimes it’s just about being bored with one person.”

Unfaithfulness in relationships can result from numerous issues such as lack of intimacy, feeling neglected or ignored, and emotional withdrawal. Unfaithfulness can also lead to irreversible distrust, revenge, divorce and, in some extreme cases, murder. As vehement as we may be about our opinions on this subject, we must be as diligent in remembering the outcome of some of the most infamous cases of unfaithfulness. To name a few: Joey Buttafuoco and his under-aged sidepiece, Amy Fisher, who shot Mrs. Buttafuoco in the face in the heat of a jealous rage; Basketball star Kobe Bryant, who stepped out on his wife, Vanessa, when he had a sexual encounter with a woman in a Colorado hotel room, after which he was charged with rape; and let’s not forget about one of our nation’s most revered presidents, Bill Clinton, who faced impeachment after lying about his affair with intern Monica Lewinsky. The media had a field day with these cases, crowning men the kings of unfaithfulness.

However, according to Michelle Langley, author of Women’s Infidelity, women are cheating just as much as men and the media have just begun to acknowledge, to a limited extent, the pervasive crisis associated with female unfaithfulness. On her website, Womensinfidelity.com, she asserts that after researching women’s sexuality for more than ten years, she concluded that most of society’s beliefs about females are extremely distorted and invalid. She further claims that after an average of four years of marriage, women in their twenties and thirties experience a pre-midlife crisis similar to the male midlife crisis, which makes women more likely to cheat. She also states that women – under this profile at Stage 3 – have lost interest in sex with their husbands who often have no knowledge of their wives’ affairs.

Finding the answer to the battle of the sexes in the cheating department may go down in history books as having more complex questions and no finite solution. At the end of the day, we’ll never establish the absolute winner of this never-ending contest. And maybe it would help if the question were posed differently by asking “Who gets hurt the most from unfaithfulness in a relationship?” Then we’d all agree – hands down –that nobody ever wins.

About the Author: Mel Bancroft is a contributing writer for ; Regal Black Mens Magazine For more information on this subject visit our ; Lifestyle Section To read about ; unfaithfulness.

4 Signs Your Spouse is Cheating Using the Internet

January 2, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Do you have a feeling your spouse is using the Internet to cheat on you? If you suspect they are, here are four signs you need to know about how they could be using the Internet to cheat on you.

With the internet it has become a lot easier for men and women to cheat on their spouse. There has been a study done that shows that 44% of males and 27% of women have cheated on their spouse using the internet.

Catching someone cheating on the Internet is actually harder to do. So you need to watch for the 4 signs your spouse is using the internet to cheat on you.

One: If your spouse is staying online all hours of the day or night and they don’t have an internet business or another legitimate reason for the time spent online then this is a good sign that your spouse is cheating on you over the internet.

Two: Another good sign your spouse is cheating is when you walk into the room where the computer is and they minimize or shut it down really fast.

Three: If your spouse has password protected the computer all of a sudden when they never did this before. Or when they change the password for their computer to something that you don’t know then this is a good sign that they are trying to hide something, which usually means they are cheating online.

You can casually bring up the password change to your spouse and then watch their reaction. Do they become irritable and hostile? Do they provide you with an explanation and offer to let you know the new password?

Four: You find that every time you get on your computer the history has been cleaned out? If you do then this is a definite sign that your spouse is trying to hide something from you.

Most people will only clean out their history every couple of months. If you notice your history being cleaned out all the time you will want to ask your spouse about this and see what their reaction is.

Find out what reason they give you. If you don’t notice the history being cleaned out every day but you still suspect your spouse of cheating then you can check the history record to find out where your spouse if spending their time online.

If you notice any of these 4 signs your spouse is using the internet to cheat on you then you need to confront your spouse about them. Find out what they say, but remember, they probably will not be truthful with you.

Cheating spouses don’t want to get caught so they will do everything they can to make you think that you are imagining things. Just remember the signs you have seen that make you think they are cheating.

Before you hire a private investigator be sure to do your homework. Do an Internet search on the investigators name to see if they are considered an expert or authority in this type of investigation. Also do a search on the web site name and company name to see if their are any Internet postings from former clients who are either satisfied or not.

Last check out the pricing and turn around times for the results. Are they competitive? Beware of companies that are too cheap and offer “instant” searches. This information will almost always be inaccurate and out dated. Be leery if you see a site offering “unlimited” searches for one low price. If it looks too good to be true it usually is.

Author Bio: Ed Opperman , president of Opperman Investigations Inc is an expert in Internet Infidelity Investigations and Computer and Cell Phone Forensics. If you need help with an infidelity investigation visit www.emailrevealer.com