Save Marriages With Unconditional Love
September 13, 2008 | Leave a Comment
In the middle of a session the other day I had a powerful realization. I was asked to think of a relationship I had with something in the last week that in my mind was the ideal relationship, and to think of what it was about that relationship that made it ideal.
A number of men in the group thought of their cars, tool sheds, families, workmates, old friends, even relationships with objects such as their television remote, recliner chair, or favorite pair of shoes. To each of these men, these things felt comfortable, and simple. The relationships they had with these people or objects was rewarding and easy to maintain.
When my turn came to identify my ideal relationship, I thought of my dog. My dog has very simple needs, and it is the ultimate ego-boost for me when I get home at night and I am greeted in such an enthusiastic fashion. I don’t know of any others that greet me so enthusiastically night after night. No matter how long I have been away from the house or no matter how my day has been. I call this unconditional love.
So what is unconditional love?
Unconditional love is the type of love that comes without conditions. It is the type of love that you have for your partner when the romantic, hollywood-style love is gone. Once the romantic love is gone you make the transition to “real” love. Real love is love you have for your partner despite the knowledge that they are not perfect. You know your partner has faults. You know your partner is not perfect. You know your partner makes mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. You still love them. This is unconditional love.
The same thing applies to you however in looking at your partner’s faults. You acknowledge that you are the same. You have faults. You are not perfect. You know you make mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. That’s called self-acceptance, and you expect unconditional love to overcome the faults and imperfections that people have.
So what do you get from this then? Should we all go out and get dogs to teach us something about unconditional love? Maybe there is a lesson to be learnt here. We all clutter our lives with trials and tribulations, and there is the temptation to let our issues rule our lives.
But if you are serious about saving your marriage you need to put the clutter to one side and let your unconditional love come through. It is okay to have faults and make mistakes. And love will conquer them all.
Have a think about unconditional love and how you can apply this realization to your relationship.
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September 11, 2008 | Leave a Comment
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How a Couples’ Therapist Can Improve Your Relationship
September 9, 2008 | Leave a Comment
When it feels as though you are doing everything in your power to keep your relationship strong and solid but it still feels as if something is not quite working, you just might find that it’s a great idea to start looking into a couples’ therapist. On many different levels, a couples’ therapist can help you to improve your relationship.
First, a couples’ therapist can help you to improve communication. Whether you are having trouble connecting because of stress on the job, disagreements about raising the kids or even as the result of an illness that is taking toll on the family, a couples’ therapist can help you to get to the root of what is coming between you and help you to move beyond it.
Similarly, when you are working on your relationship with the help of a couples’ therapist, you will find that you are in a position in which you won’t just communicate more effectively, but also that you will be able to stop playing scorekeeper. Keeping score of the number of times that your partner has somehow done you wrong is only going to create more challenges within your relationship; working with a couples’ therapist can help you to forgive and to let go of the pain that the hurts have caused.
More importantly, you’re going to find that, when you are working with a couples’ therapist, you will be able to learn more about what you are doing to affect your relationship. In most cases, after all, reactions, hurts, anger and other responses that we have add to the conflict. When you are working with a couples’ therapist, you will find that you are in a position to better understand what you are doing and how it affects your relationship.
As a result, you will find that your couples’ therapist will help you to connect with your emotions – and to help you to learn to better process them. Because you will be able to work with a couples’ therapist to understand your emotions, you will be in a better position to work through them.
Ultimately, working through your emotions (and understanding where they come from) will have a positive impact on your relationship. It will allow you to move past those things that have happened in the past and to focus on the future of your relationship. In other words, working with a couples’ therapist will enable you to focus on moving forward, on reconnecting and on understanding that the passion that you once felt for one another is still there – despite hurt, anger, and the chaos brought on by family, work and other stresses.
When your relationship is suffering because of the stresses that are put on it, when you find that you are not communicating as well as you could be, you are likely to find that working with a couples’ therapist will create a solution: you are likely to find that working with a couples’ therapist will enable you to build the future of your relationship rather than dwelling on the past.
Source: For more information on counseling for couples, individuals, marriage and relationships, or live phone counseling, visit The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory.