Is Your Man Cheating by Having Sex With Escorts?
January 17, 2009 | Leave a Comment
Do you suspect a man in your life is having sex with escorts? There are very few things that a woman will find more repulsive than the idea of the man that she loves having cheap anonymous sex with an escort in some sleazy motel room. It’s a huge betrayal to the trust one should have in a relationship. It exposes your family to disease, blackmail and extortion, drugs and possible criminal prosecution.
There are some basic signs that should raise your suspicions of your man cheating with an escort.
1 .Missing time.
2. Missing money.
3. Change in sexual habits or interests.
4. Secretive behavior.
Suspicion is one thing, paranoia is another. What you need is poof! But how can you get the evidence to relieve your suspicious mind? Sex with a prostitute is often anonymous.The transactions are usually in cash.You can hire a PI to follow your man around all day but that could be very expensive. Most private investigators charge $125 an hour and up for surveillance.
A recent survey revealed that up to 85% of all prostitutes interviewed worked for escort services, most of those escort services have web sites to advertise their company. The rise of Internet based escort services is a relatively new phenomenon that has only been around the last 10 years as the Internet has grown in use. Years ago escort service were advertised by word of mouth, referrals and a few discreet ads in the phone book. Today in the competitive world of Internet marketing a single escort service may have dozens if not hundreds of Internet entries. Web pages, blogs, Myspace, directories, review sites. Even some adult orientated dating services will cater to and promote prostitutes and their escort service.
So today a man looking for sex with an escort will have to look no farther than his computer. He can sign up to dating services, create secret email accounts, secret Myspace pages, even post reviews on web communities dedicated to escorts and their clients. What that cheating man does not realize is that all of his online activity can be tracked and traced by an online private investigator for a fraction of what it would cost to follow him around for just a couple of hours.
A private investigator that is trained in Internet investigations can locate and identify every one of those secret email accounts and secret personal ad memberships that your man is using to meet and have sex with escorts. This can be done without any illegal hacking or cracking or downloading any key loggers or spy ware. You can even spy on his activity from his work computer or other computers that you do not have access.
Sex with prostitutes, Internet porn addiction, secret social network sites that mentions drug use , gambling, substance abuse and inappropriate associations are all factors that can be brought up in a child custody hearing. If you find out your children’s father is involved in these types of repulsive behaviors and decide to divorce, this evidence can and should be submitted to the court for consideration in awarding custody and visitation.
If you have suspicions you should , for the safety of your family, find out the truth. If you decide to hire an online investigator be sure to research the investigator and the company involved to see if they are recognized as an expert in online infidelity investigations.
Author Bio: Ed Opperman, Preseident of Opperman Investigations Inc is considered an expert in Online Infidelity Investigations. If you suspect cheating visit www.emailrevealer.com
Happier Marriage: Ten Tips For Creating The Marriage Of Your Dreams
January 5, 2009 | Leave a Comment
Everyone wants a happier marriage yet few people know what to do to achieve it. So many times people look to their spouse to “complete” them instead of looking inside themselves to figure out how they can help their relationship thrive. Here are some ideas to get you started on the road to a happier marriage.
1. Overlook your spouse’s faults like you overlook your own. If you are honest with yourself, you will admit you have faults, just as everyone does. If you’re really honest with yourself, you will admit that you often overlook or dismiss your bad habits, while criticizing your spouse’s bad habits. Decide today to go easy on your spouse. Let go of the need to correct his faults and you may find him less critical of yours.
2. Decide what kind of day you want to have, and then create it. Yes, you can do this. A rainy day doesn’t make you have a “bad day.” You decide how to deal with things that are out of your control, like the weather, other people’s driving, your boss’s micromanaging, etc. You can choose misery or you can choose peace of mind.
It begins with what you tell yourself. For example: if it’s raining in the morning you can fret and tell yourself, “This is going to be a terrible day. I’ll get wet, people will drive like maniacs, and I’ll be late for work. This day is ruined.” Guess what? You’re right. Try this instead: “I am grateful for the rain. I’ll leave early for work and I’ll drive carefully. I can put on my favorite music and I’ll choose calm. This is a great day.” Your spouse will thank you when you decide what kind of day to have and her “bad mood” won’t bother you!
3. A kiss on the cheek at an unexpected time can create goodwill. If you have a habit of greeting your spouse with a friendly, “Where were you? Why didn’t you call? You said you were going to be here by 6:00,” take a deep breath and hold that thought. Try this instead: “I’m so glad to see you. How was your day?” then kiss him on the cheek and enjoy the rest of your evening together. Maybe your spouse will think you’ve gone crazy, but it will definitely be a change from the usual evening sparring match.
4. Always greet your spouse with a smile. Remember why you married her and let that warm feeling create your smile. Smiles are contagious; you’re likely to get one back when you practice this. When he calls you, answer the phone with a smile. You will feel differently when you smile and your spouse can hear your smile in your voice.
5. Add to this a bonus. Smiles and hugs go together like salt and pepper. We need human contact with the one we chose to marry. Hugs can melt away resentment and generate compassion. Virginia Satir, one of the key figures in the development of family therapy, declared that we need twelve hugs a day to maintain our mental health. How many hugs are you giving each other each day?
6. Always be the first to say, “I’m sorry,” even if you believe you were right (especially if you believe you are right). When you believe you are right and you’re willing to create distance between you and your spouse to hold onto your “rightness” you damage your relationship. Ask yourself if you want to win the argument or win the relationship. You can’t do both.
7. Make a daily habit of remembering what made you fall in love with him. If you only focus on your partner’s faults, you will quickly “fall out” of love. You can decide to focus on what you like and appreciate your spouse. This is not something to keep to yourself. Appreciate her and tell her. Daily. Appreciation has a wonderful benefit of coming back to you. People will do more for you when they realize you truly appreciate them and what they do.
8. Make blame an obsolete concept. It has no place in your marriage. Blame is so dangerous to the health of your marriage. Blame says you are a victim and your happiness is totally dependent on your spouse doing everything just the way you want it. Choose to take responsibility for what you can control: your own behavior. Before a blaming statement leaves your mouth, ask yourself what you can do to help your marriage.
9. Total honesty is not helpful. Discretion is better. Focusing on the good things you can say to each other is best. I think some people use the phrase “I’m just being honest” to say some pretty ugly things to each other. Sometimes people say they’re being honest, but they are really only expressing their opinion. Before you decide to say that “honest” thing to your spouse, think about how it will impact your relationship. Can you phrase it differently? Does it need to be said? Is it just your opinion? Think about it.
10. Ask yourself, “What can I do today that will bring me closer to the one I married?” Then do it. Keep it simple, using the examples above or creating your own. You have a creative mind and you can make this a daily habit. You will reap the benefits of a closer, happier marriage. Keep up these habits, building on them, and you can create the marriage of your dreams.
About the Author: Michelle E. Vasquez is a Relationship Coach and a Licensed Professional Counselor in San Antonio, TX. For more tips and tools to help you create relationships that bring you joy, visit http://www.michellevasquez.com and sign up for the free newsletter, Relationship Success, while you’re there.
4 Signs Your Spouse is Cheating Using the Internet
January 2, 2009 | Leave a Comment
Do you have a feeling your spouse is using the Internet to cheat on you? If you suspect they are, here are four signs you need to know about how they could be using the Internet to cheat on you.
With the internet it has become a lot easier for men and women to cheat on their spouse. There has been a study done that shows that 44% of males and 27% of women have cheated on their spouse using the internet.
Catching someone cheating on the Internet is actually harder to do. So you need to watch for the 4 signs your spouse is using the internet to cheat on you.
One: If your spouse is staying online all hours of the day or night and they don’t have an internet business or another legitimate reason for the time spent online then this is a good sign that your spouse is cheating on you over the internet.
Two: Another good sign your spouse is cheating is when you walk into the room where the computer is and they minimize or shut it down really fast.
Three: If your spouse has password protected the computer all of a sudden when they never did this before. Or when they change the password for their computer to something that you don’t know then this is a good sign that they are trying to hide something, which usually means they are cheating online.
You can casually bring up the password change to your spouse and then watch their reaction. Do they become irritable and hostile? Do they provide you with an explanation and offer to let you know the new password?
Four: You find that every time you get on your computer the history has been cleaned out? If you do then this is a definite sign that your spouse is trying to hide something from you.
Most people will only clean out their history every couple of months. If you notice your history being cleaned out all the time you will want to ask your spouse about this and see what their reaction is.
Find out what reason they give you. If you don’t notice the history being cleaned out every day but you still suspect your spouse of cheating then you can check the history record to find out where your spouse if spending their time online.
If you notice any of these 4 signs your spouse is using the internet to cheat on you then you need to confront your spouse about them. Find out what they say, but remember, they probably will not be truthful with you.
Cheating spouses don’t want to get caught so they will do everything they can to make you think that you are imagining things. Just remember the signs you have seen that make you think they are cheating.
Before you hire a private investigator be sure to do your homework. Do an Internet search on the investigators name to see if they are considered an expert or authority in this type of investigation. Also do a search on the web site name and company name to see if their are any Internet postings from former clients who are either satisfied or not.
Last check out the pricing and turn around times for the results. Are they competitive? Beware of companies that are too cheap and offer “instant” searches. This information will almost always be inaccurate and out dated. Be leery if you see a site offering “unlimited” searches for one low price. If it looks too good to be true it usually is.
Author Bio: Ed Opperman , president of Opperman Investigations Inc is an expert in Internet Infidelity Investigations and Computer and Cell Phone Forensics. If you need help with an infidelity investigation visit www.emailrevealer.com